Parenting: The Name of the Game

Parenting: The Name of the Game

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We know teens often think they’re in charge. But parents get to make the rules, and you are still your teen’s first role model.

Making sure they know family rules, including not drinking alcohol underage, is as fundamental as the ABCs and 123s. As your teen develops, update your family rules accordingly. You may encounter some resistance, but that doesn’t mean you must change the rules.

Get comfortable with the facts to give your teen a consistent no-use message. These conversations can be challenging, but keeping your children safe takes work and consistency.

There are many reasons to avoid alcohol. Maybe there’s a family history of alcohol use disorder, or you want them to keep a good reputation. Whatever it is, there are facts to support you.

  • Your values and beliefs inform their decision-making at this age.
  • Knowing their parents disapprove of underage drinking is a key deterrent for teens and pre-teens, whether they admit it or not.
  • Check-in with your teens after they’ve been out, using your parental instincts to check for anything amiss.

Keep Showing Up, They’re Still Growing Up.

Talking to Your Kids

Starting the Discussion About Drug and Alcohol Use with Your Kids

Parents face a tough dilemma about substance use: we may want our children to abstain from alcohol and drug use but what do we do if they are not? Besides the effects of substance use on the developing brain, teens using substances may face very serious consequences.

Learn More.

 

Moments to Bring Your A Game

You can’t expect you’re best if you drink underage.

Moments to Bring Your A Game

Whether working to win a big match or master a new creation, your greatest performance requires focus. You can’t expect you’re best if you drink underage.

How so? Our brains naturally release a chemical called norepinephrine to help us pay attention. Within minutes of drinking, alcohol reaches the brain and interferes with this process, shortening attention span and making it harder to concentrate. Give your goals the full focus they deserve. Succeed alcohol-free.

Source:http://bit.ly/3IXr8MJ

Other Steps to Succeed

  • Write down your goals.
  • Look to a role model for inspiration.
  • Keep going, even when you face setbacks.

NOT MISSING THE MOMENT

Your Light Still Shines

Your Light Still Shines

Your Light Still Shines

In honor of International Overdose Awareness Day

The memorial event through the village of New Lenox and the New Lenox Safe Communities Coalition was held at Parkview Christian Church in New Lenox, IL on Wednesday, August 23, 2023 to provide education, prevention, resources and hope. The event included The  HERO “Hidden in Plain Sight” Trailer, informational tables, memorial tables, Narcan training and a panel of speakers. The Will County Sheriff Office comfort dog, Chase even made a special appearance!

Photos from Your Light Still Shines event

For additional information, please contact:

Daniel Martin
Safe Community Coordinator,
Village of New Lenox
(815) 462-6693

Underage Drinking Harms Chances of Achieving Goals

Underage Drinking Harms Chances of Achieving Goals

Teans giving high fives in classroom

My life requires focus. I’ve set goals that I’m determined to reach. I know underage drinking only harms my chances of achieving those goals.

Alcohol is a depressant, which means it can cause my brain to slow down. It can also interfere with my brain’s executive functions. Executive functions make problem-solving, self-control, goal setting and focus possible. When alcohol affects these brain functions, it’s way harder to accomplish the things I’ve set out to do.

My goals deserve my focus. That’s why my life design doesn’t include underage drinking.

Goal-Setting Tips:

  • Be specific. Know exactly what goal you want to set, like “Get a B
    or above in every class.”
  • Be realistic. It’s great to dream big but think of goals like steps. You want lots of realistic, smaller steps so that you can reach the bigger dreams.
  • Be patient with yourself. You don’t reach your goals overnight. They take time, and often some failures along the way too.

Source: sciencenewsforstudents.org/article/alcohol-can-rewire-teenage-brain

Funded in whole or in party by the Illinois Department of Human Services, Division of Substance Use Prevention and Recovery through a grant from the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Service Administration.

Talking to Your Kids

Starting the Discussion About Drug and Alcohol Use with Your Kids

Parents face a tough dilemma about substance use: we may want our children to abstain from alcohol and drug use but what do we do if they are not? Besides the effects of substance use on the developing brain, teens using substances may face very serious consequences.

Learn More.

 

Make the Small Moments Matter

Make the Small Moments Matter

Father and son in car, son with headphones on ignoring dad

Finding Time to Discuss the Risks of Underage Drinking

Spending quality time with teens may feel like a hurdle at times. Chances are they or you may have a busy schedule. Even if this is the case in your household, you can still make the most of the brief interactions you have with your teen and encourage safe decision-making.

Discussing the risks of underage drinking does not have to be a long conversation. Having brief and frequent chats about the risks and your expectations is often more effective.

Finding the Right Moments

When discussing the risks and rules around underage drinking, try to keep it casual. Find those natural moments when you and your teen are together, and you have their attention.

Here are possible occasions:

  • At the beginning or end of the day, there’s something special about the chance to be the first or last person your teen talks to.
  • When you are in the car or sitting next to your teen on the bus, you can use your commute to catch up and chat about not drinking.
  • Whether family mealtime is mandatory or not, try to schedule time to eat with your teen and have a meaningful conversation.

Making the Most of the Moment

If you do manage to have uninterrupted time with your teen, take advantage of every minute.

Be straightforward, open, and honest with your teen. Share underage drinking risks that are grounded in research.

Even if the conversation gets tense, the good thing is that there is a destination. That may force you to push pause on the discussion and continue it another time.

As you talk with your child, be aware of your delivery. This includes watching your tone and body language. Try to avoid an aggressive tone or crossed arms because this may imply that you aren’t in a place to listen.

It’s also essential to make the conversation a two-way street. Allow your teen to ask questions or share their point of view

What if My Teen Isn’t Receptive?

If you find that these conversations about underage drinking don’t go over well with your teen, don’t feel discouraged, and don’t stop talking about it. Frequent conversations help establish your expectations for your teen to decide not to drink while underage.

There are other ways to promote your teen’s decisions not to drink. Research shows that staying involved in your teen’s life and monitoring their activities can have a positive impact.¹

Keep Showing Up, They’re Still Growing Up.

Resources:

Where can parents get more information?

Source:
1. Komro, K. A., & Toomey, T. L. (2002). Strategies to Prevent Underage Drinking. https://pubs.niaaa.nih.gov/publications/arh26-1/5-14.htm.

Funded in whole or in part by the Illinois Department of Human Services, Division of Substance Use Prevention and Recovery through a grant from the Substance
Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration.

Talking to Your Kids

Starting the Discussion About Drug and Alcohol Use with Your Kids

Parents face a tough dilemma about substance use: we may want our children to abstain from alcohol and drug use but what do we do if they are not? Besides the effects of substance use on the developing brain, teens using substances may face very serious consequences.

Learn More.

 

Protect Your Brain

Protect Your Brain!
It’s Still Growing!

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Did You Know Your Brain is Growing Through Your Mid-twenties? Drinking Before it’s Fully Developed can do Permanent Damage.

Alcohol always has short-term effects on the brain, like impairing judgment and coordination, but it can also have longterm consequences.

Some studies show that heavy drinking as a teen can reduce the size of the prefrontal cortex and hippocampus, two critical parts of the brain. These changes can harm learning and memory even years down the road.

Your brain is one of your most important organs. It’s behind ever y thought, feeling and action.

WITH ALL THE WAYS YOUR BRAIN HELPS YOU OUT, THE LEAST YOU CAN DO IS PROTECT IT FROM ALCOHOL. DON’T DRINK WHILE UNDERAGE.

Talking to Your Kids

Starting the Discussion About Drug and Alcohol Use with Your Kids

Parents face a tough dilemma about substance use: we may want our children to abstain from alcohol and drug use but what do we do if they are not? Besides the effects of substance use on the developing brain, teens using substances may face very serious consequences.

Learn More.